How well-resourced are you? I love this question. This is a question I first heard while working through a course led by Mark Walsh.
Often our society celebrates the ‘work hard, play hard’, ‘go big or go home’, ‘all or nothing’ type attitude. But does that ethos help or hurt?
By Mark asking participants in his courses how well-resourced they are, it allows people to really stop and think. Some days on a scale of 1-10 you might be an 8, while other days you might be a 3.
Neither answer is right or wrong. It just is what it is. Any place you fall on the scale is part of our human experience.
Things that might contribute to us not feeling well-resourced could be—not getting enough sleep, working overtime, feeling ill, relationship stress, or financial worries.
Sometimes the things that keep us from feeling well-resourced can be big, such as trauma. Some of the things can be out of our control, such as a loved one facing a serious health issue.
When we look at how well-resourced we are and apply it to fitness expectations (or even life expectations), is it reasonable to always expect 100%?
If you are feeling a 2 on the well-resourced scale, is a power yoga class really the answer? Maybe for you yes it is, but maybe not. Maybe a gentle practice will actually be of more benefit. Maybe skipping a class and getting some sleep would be even better.
The good news is that by starting to think in terms of how well-resourced we are we bring self-awareness to our ever-changing situation. We can also start to collect information on the things that help us feel more well-resourced and try to incorporate them into our days.
For me, it is the simple things that help me feel well-resourced including
-getting outside in nature
-tuning off the TV earlier and getting more sleep
-eating more fruit
-putting on some music and dancing
-making time for meditation
When I take the time to make these things part of my day I feel better, no matter what else might be going on in my life.
I have found that thinking about how well-resourced I am also helps to foster self-compassion. If I am a 3, I can lower the expectations I have for myself, be kinder and gentler with myself, and spend some time on activities that nurture and nourish me.
This weekend I encourage you to think about how well-resourced you are. Then, make a list of the things that contribute to you feeling well-resourced. Finally, see if you can add one or two of these soul nurturing things into your days.
Make a great weekend
I like using the “well-resourced” frame to talk about how we might be feeling on any given day. I definitely am aware that when I am dehydrated or when I have been eating unhealthy food, I don’t operate very well.